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Today there has been an announcement at work regarding many upcoming redundancies… A huge amount of people will be fired worldwide. In the old days, that would have worried me a lot, even if this is part of the industry I am working in…a lot of competition worldwide and therefore tough for companies to be sustainable…

But “thanks to” my burnout, I realized that work is not at all as important as your family, your friends, and yourself. Because no matter if you like it or not, you are not irreplacable. You are an asset to the company and when you are not needed anymore, well, they will not hesitate a second to cut you off. This purely is business, and business is rational… You need to make money at the end and cut costs if the revenues are not high enough…

It does not mean that you should not be dedicated to your work even if you are thinking that it is not the most important thing in your life. Just that you should do what is good for you instead. You need to work hard because you want to learn, because you like solving problems, because you like challenges, because you are passionated about your products, etc…

Of course the financial aspect of potentially being fired is important and cannot be ignored but we must believe that it will turn out for the best and take it as it comes. Maybe a better salary somewhere else, or the chance to change career, or a promotion, etc…

What I have learned in my life so far, is that things happen for a reason and it often turns out positively at the end even if it is not always easy to see it this way when tough things happens.

I can give a few examples on why I am thinking this way:

I am living in Denmark since 2000. And I came there because of an ex-boyfriend. The relationship turned out to be a failure but because my family was against me moving to Denmark originally, and I was too proud to hear “I told you so”,  I decided to stay anyway and finished my studies over there and later on met my husband.

While I was a student, I needed to make some money so I worked in a market research company and one of the company I did a focus group for, ended up being where I got my first job after my studies. I there met a colleague that brought me later on to Sweden. This turned out to be the best country to work in. Family and career can be combined and you have quite a good safety net.

I always feared the loss of my grand parents that had become so important after my mothers death. But it actually turned out that I was pregnant each time I lost one of my grand parents. This could not have been predicted. It just happened and it definitely helped me to make it through the loss.

And finally … my burn out. I needed it to happen for me to realize that I had to change my life. I was going right into a wall, having my kids life passing by, without me even noticing, and I had to get a wake up call. Now I feel happy again, I feel lucky, I feel grateful. I found myself again. And no, I am not trying to only paint everything in pink. I am still struggling every day as I need to be very disciplined and need to rest a lot. When I am tired, I get this negative thinking again. But I am able to recognize the good things. I enjoy the moment now. The bad things will always be part of life. But the difference between before and now, is that I accept the sad part as well. I cry it out. Before I was not letting it happen, because I am the happy person that I thought people wanted me to be in order to be appreciated. And funny enough, accepting to be sad helped me to be even more happy than before…

Religious or not, here are my lessons learned of the day:

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